Healthy loving relationships require healthy loving partners. We cannot give what we do not have or what we do not know. We learn to love from our parents; our parents’ relationship shows us what romantic love looks like. However, we can learn new attachment styles in relationships.
In order to have a healthy relationship, you need to know what healthy boundaries are and what you are expecting for yourself in an intimate relationship. First off, you must believe deep within your soul that you are deserving of unconditional love and that you are loveable. People will respect you if you respect yourself. You deserve your own love and you are worthy of a healthy loving relationship.
Relationships are not easy. You are dealing with two living, breathing human beings with separate minds, abilities, desires, hopes and dreams. You cannot expect two people to be exactly the same and want the exact same things out of life. But, you do want to pick someone with the same values as you and someone who has similar goals. If you ever want your own career and a family, then you should be looking at partners who want children and are willing to share the workload with you.
I strongly suggest getting to know your love interest. Why invest time into someone who you really don’t get along with or whose personality does not quite jive with yours. When you try to change someone, you are basically and unconsciously saying that you do not respect and love the person for who they are. There is no future in a relationship where respect is lacking.
You will know if you are compatible with someone else. Keep in mind that both you and your partner must be at a state of readiness if you’re going to get serious. If he or she is not ready to get serious, you shouldn’t try to force that person to want what you want. Have faith Creator will send you what you desire and what you need all in the right timing. Until then, fall in love with you and invest time into building a beautiful relationship with yourself.
