If you want to change your life, you must raise your standards! The best way to change your standards is to go about learning and studying what you think is success and then put into action what you have learned. Nothing changes if nothing changes. You cannot expect results if you, yourself, are unwilling to work for what you want.
Life is short and there are many lessons to learn. However, you are not meant to live out the same mistakes and painful experiences. If you want better, you must do better! Raising your standards implies you have an understanding of what you want and doing whatever it takes to get it. Most people give up and quit when they repeatedly fail and that is why so many people are unsatisfied with what they have. You are responsible for living an authentic life according to the standards you set: keep them high and accept no less than you deserve!