You cannot change another person. There is no amount of wanting someone to change that will make it happen. I’m sure many of you have people in your life that you wish they would change their ways. However, until they are ready and willing to do things differently, they will not until they’re ready.
It is heart breaking to watch others hurt and destroy their lives. However, we can not control, manipulate, or fix anyone else’s behaviour. Getting into a relationship thinking you can is a recipe for disaster. And, watching those you love struggle time and time again is not something anyone can prepare themselves for.
Self worth has much to do with self sabotage. If a person does not think they are worthy of a good life, then they will continue in their ways. Keep in mind, it’s best not to do things for others they can do themselves. People need to learn to be self sufficient and feel capable of taking care of themselves. Love those who do not love themselves, but be sure to have boundaries and love yourself.