I’m just about mid-life, so I feel confident saying learn to love yourself, surround yourself with people who want to see you succeed and who have the emotional competence to hold and support your emotions.
For anyone struggling to find support, I can say this as someone who has grown up emotional instability, I did not lean into my parents for support. I learned in childhood that my parents were incapable of being nurturing and unconditionally loving. That’s one of the main reasons I struggled with my self esteem.
Instead build a support system with your Aunts, friends, Grandparents, Sponsor, counsellor, etc.
I have.
Your parents are who they are (in my case unwilling to deal with their own traumas), stop looking to them to love, help and support you the way you deserve. Build your own support system and carry on 👑 there are many people who love you. Cultivating a support system has been an ultimate game changer in my life, I hope you have the desire and strength to create one for yourself.