Not everyone has the perfect family. Families have their own dynamics and behaviors, some of which are healthy some that are not. People cannot give what they do not have, yet most parents do try to do the best they can.
I feel it is important to act with dignity and respect to honor my grandparents. I’m at a place in my life where I am much less concerned about selfish things, and I try my best to listen and learn from the wisdom my grandparents readily share. I definitely know the man I choose to marry, my Grandfather will respect. I expect nothing less. Our families may not be perfect, yet they are who we are born of; it is up to us to take the good from the bad and pass on the behaviours we value from our families.