No one likes to be called insecure! But, what does it mean to be secure? To be secure means that a person isn’t dependent upon another person’s behavior for their sense of worth. Now for people who are shame-based and who have lost a sense of connection to themselves being dependent on another is a painful experience.
How does one take back their power and feel secure regardless of what anyone else is doing or who is in their life? It takes inner work and self-awareness. If you know that you struggle with insecurity there is no time like now to believe that you are loveable and don’t need anyone else’s approval to feel worthy. Until we change our beliefs about ourselves, we will keep attracting the same relationships and experiences.
Inner work requires learning and support. Counselling and 12 step groups definitely help with being honest and vulnerable about what one is feeling. You can be secure and independent, in fact, healthy, high vibrational people are attracted to secure individuals. There certainly is a lot to learn in one life time; however, make doing inner work about yourself and not anyone else. Do the work and you will change the way you experience life! Stop depriving yourself of the love you deserve, you are the only one who can change your belief system and enjoy improved relationships.
I’ll leave you with these wise words from Maya Angelou, “I don’t trust people who don’t love themselves and tell me, I love you.”