Losing someone you love is never easy. After someone is no longer in your life, it really makes a person question who and what is important. Staying stuck in the pain of loss is optional. Who has been prepared to deal with all of life’s hardships? I don’t really think anyone. However, allowing one’s self to grieve is important.
This summer a very important relationship in my life came to an end. Sometimes, I cry other times I become angry; however, I have given myself permission to feel the feelings that are not comfortable and not to rush the grieving process. I know I am not ready to start a new intimate relationship unless it based in friendship, honesty and respect. However, I have strengthened old relationships and have made new, powerful friendships.
Taking the time to rest, opening one’s self up to new opportunities, creativity and experiences can help heal the relationship that is lost. Death and break ups both can be psychologically damaging. Numbing pain is temporary and it karmatically has opposite effects. All I know is I have allowed myself to cry, feel my anger, started painting, learning and writing new music, made some incredible new friendships and took some risks and started some brand new fun projects. Sure, I lost someone I love dearly, but as a result I have re-invented myself and prioritized what is most important to me. Keep moving through your pain to become the happy, loving person you are meant to be!